The video on Disney and gender was something I had heard before. I thought they did a good job depicting the gender roles portrayed by Disney and in the end they encouraged viewers to enjoy Disney classics but to be mindful of the stereotypes created and perpetuated by them. One line from The little mermaid that particularly lit a fire for me was "Its she who holds her tongue who gets her man" I find that things like this infuriate me now that I have a daughter! I want her to speak her mind and be bold! Be confident in her ideas and to know that society will listen to an intelligent idea no matter if it comes from someone in a dress or a tie! I don't know why I didn't notice all the gender stereotypes forced on boys when I just had my son but maybe it was because we didn't watch a lot of TV. After reading this chapter and the extra materials I am feeling like I need to eliminate some of the screens in our house! Delete some games from phones and Ipads and make sure there is more time spent on what matters! Outside, books, art, family, catching bugs, and building fires for smores!
Monday, May 12, 2014
Lots to take in this week!!!
The material from this week was very interesting! It gives me as a parent a lot to think about! I love all the new information about parenting and find it incredibly useful as a parent myself. I hope that most of the time I am an authoritative parent but I know at times I have been the other three styles as well. Iv said "Because I said so" once or twice and I know Iv given in to what my children were asking for even when I knew that it wasn't the best choice. I made it a point that no matter what I would always aim for helping them find reason in the world and the only way for that to happen is to explain and to lead by example as is a large part of the authoritative parenting style. As said in one of the videos its hard to diagnose your own parenting style because most of us have good and bad days. I am part of a gentle parenting group online. I like to read the good experiences along with the ones that need improving. Its encouraging and enlightening to read about other like minded parents struggling with the same daily issues such as how to be gentle and loving when your child insists on dumping her juice on the carpet after two sips every single time! I also am a strong believer in direct instruction! Although I didn't know that term until reading this chapter I always felt that "prepping" the kids for situations that may be in the near future helped them deal with the situation with less interference from me. It seemed to give my son confidence and a feeling of safety. He is nervous in new situations and around new people. But if I explain what will be happening throughout the new experience he seems to transition better.
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Great post. I would describe the "explaining style" parenting like a meteorological event. If a hurricane hits or it rains people don't necessarily get it, but once/if they learn why then they will learn to avoid or limit it (rain coat, a dike for flooding,ect...). I too see the genderization in Disney movies (especially older ones), but I will say this, if one looks past that they are still fantastic stories for entertainment. Maybe space out different ones for different ages (finding Nemo and Cars earlier, move on to Frozen, (potentially some system like this)). But like you said less screen is more time.
ReplyDeleteI agree that gender roles are very pronounced even in Disney movies and all over TV. I think that women should be speaking their mind and be independent and it's hard to instill those beliefs into our children when media is telling them otherwise and degrading women in things such as rap music and movies. I liked your take on this weeks material!
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